“Transformation has to do with the way the walls separating us from others and from our deepest self begin to disappear. Between all of us fragile human beings stand walls built on loneliness and the absence of God, walls built on fear – fear that becomes depression or a compulsion to prove that we are special”
-Jean Vanier, “The Fragility of L’Arche and the Friendship of God.”
“We all carry a deep wound – the wound of our loneliness. That is why we find it hard to be along, and we try to heal our aloneness by joining a community. But to belong for the sake of beloning cannot help but lead to disappointment. We must realize, as Jean [Vanier] says, that ‘this wound is inherent in the human condition and that what we have to do is walk with it instead of fleeing from it. We cannot accept it until we discover that we are loved by God just as we are, and that the Holy Spirit, in a mysterious way, is living at the centre of the would.’”
-Stanley Hauerwas, “The Politics of Gentleness.”
Hauerwas, Stanley and Jean Vanier. Living Gently in a Violent World: The Prophetic Witness of Weakness (Resources for Reconciliation; Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press, 2008).